The Power of Positive Self-Talk
The Power of Positive Self-Talk
The truth is, we’re all using self-talk all of the time. Either out loud or to ourselves, we are talking to ourselves. Without really thinking about it, we are either carrying on a running conversation with ourselves, or we are telling ourselves something, and it could be true or it could be false. It could be positive or it could negative. The words you say, especially the words you say when you talk to yourself, not only change your day, they change your life….
I remember when I was a teenager and had a serious case of acne on my face and on my back. I was taking medication for it that made my skin dry out and my lips get dry and crack and my face turned a red color. Needless to say, when I looked in the mirror in the mornings my self talk to my self was very negative. I would say things like;
• “Man, you are one ugly dude.”
• “There is no way in hell any girl would ever be attracted to me.”
• “Oh my God, that zit on my forehead looks like Mount St. Helens ready to explode.”
• “My face is so red I look like a tomatoe.”
• “You will never amount to anything looking like that.”
No wonder my high school years weren’t very memorable for me or frankly very positive, because everything about myself was usually in the negative. What I did not realize or understand back then is that the thoughts you think and the words you say physically and chemically change your brain, which literally wires your brain to succeed or fail. Your thoughts wire and change your brain!
Behavioral research suggests that over 90% of everything we think is an unconscious replay of the programs that are already wired into our brains. Many of those programs are false, negative programs, and most of them were put there by someone else. So let’s define what self-talk is in the first place.
Definition of Self Talk: it is the direction you give to your brain that tells it how to run your life. It is everything you say when you talk to yourself. It is the conscious and unconscious thoughts you think, it is what you say out loud or what you say silently to yourself. It is everything you say and think about how you feel about yourself and what you think and what you believe about anything and everything. Its about managing ALL of the thoughts that are being wired into your brain.
What we want our self-talk to be is the positive self directed, neuron patterning, personal mind-brain programming! Instructions to your brain telling it exactly what you choose to do, with detailed actions steps that put you in control.
Question: Imagine what would happen if the way you talked to yourself today would create the person you would meet in the mirror tomorrow? The self-talk you practice today will create the YOU you’re going to become tomorrow. Are you talking to yourself like I did to myself as a teenager or are you empowering yourself each day?
Unfortunately, it is estimated that as much as 75% or more of all of the programs each of us has right now are negative, false, counter-productive, or working against us. Negative self-talk tells us that we deserve LESS than the best and what we don’t deserve. I believe with all my heart, that every person was created and designed to succeed and excel. The reality of life is that blessings are given out in direct proportion to our intention of receiving them, our willingness to work for them and our willingness to believe in them. You accept and create what you believe you deserve.
What does self-talk actually do for you? It helps to paint a new picture of how your choosing to become. The brain listens best to directions that are specific and detailed, the better your brain can see it, the better it can help you create it. Your brain will work hardest at helping you get those things that you can most clearly imagine.
Repetition is the key to wiring or rewiring your brain in the right way because of the way the neuro pathways are formed in the brain. Neuro pathways are formed in the brain by repeatedly sending electrical and chemical messages (your thoughts) over the same route, like building a highway. Research has shown that thinking positively, physically grows new neurons in the left pre-fontal cortex of your brain, and boosts your ability to see alternative solutions. That increases your chances of making better choices and being more successful.
Reading Positive Self-Talk everyday does these Eight Huge things for you:
• Sets up your brain in neurologically healthy way. Resets focus for you.
• Opens your mind to positive new ideas that the self-talk messages inspire.
• Changes what you believe about yourself.
• Give you an immediate attitude adjustment. Your self-talk directs your attitude and your attitude directs your day.
• When you change your attitude, you change your feelings.
• When you change your feelings, you change your actions.
• When you change your actions, you change your results.
• Wiring your brain to be more positive, you open your brain to alternative solutions. You look for more successful outcomes until solution is found.
Examples of Positive Self-Talk Look Like this:
“I choose to be successful in some way today. I see mistakes as learning opportunities, problems only as challenges, setbacks as do overs, and limitations as a chance to seek new ways to make things happen. Everyday is an open door to my unlimited future, and becoming the awe inspiring me I was created to be.”
“I can’t wait to greet the new day each morning. I have big, bodacious goals, dreams, and endless possibilities in front of me and I choose today to make my dreams become a reality. So when I wake up each day I wake up, get up, and just do it!”
Stay tuned and be looking for the part 2 of the concept coming in your email over the next couple of days where we will talk more about how it actually works in your brain. In the meantime, use the examples with this blog to begin to talk to yourself more positively and begin to rewire your brain for success.